Hello everyone! I have been pretty busy with homeschooling and balancing other things. A couple weeks ago was mental health week. I thought about some things that has helped me and would help others to feel better or more balanced.
I am learning how to relax more and more each day. I meditate daily but there is a part of me that struggles to relax fully. Sometimes, I feel like I have to be ready for any event at any point of time. I mean nothing is actually going on, but I feel like I have to be proactive. Someone brought it to my attention that I need to learn to relax more. I suppose I trained myself to always feel like I have to be on the edge or be perfect. The reality is, being a woman and being black, we have to work twice or sometimes ten times as hard. Over the past few years, I have let go of many expectations and I learned to be grateful for how things are. When the said person told me to relax, I realized that they were right. I do not have to do everything; I do not have to rush to get my goals accomplished, and I do not have to feel worried that I am doing everything perfectly.
Taking a break or letting go of things helps to ease the pressure. Relieving myself of things that are not important, and living in the moment is so crucial that it gives me the opportunity to relax without feeling like I need more or have to do more.
Get Rid of It
Homeschooling is going well for my youngest child. However, my oldest child is attending an online school which I do not like. This online school is becoming overwhelming because I do not like to see my son struggling or frustrated. I don’t understand how the curriculum is not based on helping children to develop the skills they need at their age. I gave this school one last try with tutoring before I will finally switched to homeschooling my son. It seems, however, that public school system’s goal is not to equip children with the necessary skills they need to grow. This school takes up so much time that I have to teach my son along with the “teacher” and also provide him with additional lessons that he is missing. Thus, to ease my child’s struggle and my frustration with the “teacher” and school system, I am going to make things easier by homeschooling.
Getting rid of the things whether big or small that bring frustration or chaos in our lives will bring more peace and balance.
“We lose our gratitude so easily in this commerce-driven world, and take for granted our health, friendships, food, warm shelter, running water, etc. We can become so spoiled that we actually feel the universe is conspiring against us if we aren’t being handed an Academy Award, or if we aren’t as famous as U2.” – Max Strom.
2020 has been a rough year for everyone. While a lot of unfortunate things have happened, we can find gratitude in the fact that we have been given time to spend with the ones we love and those who matter to us most. If things were “normal,” we would all be out and about wishing that we had more time for our children or spouses. Not every day will go smoothly, but we can be grateful for the small things such as eating meals together, having to spend lots of time outdoors in the nature, and that life that has slowed down a bit.
Writing down a few things each day that I am grateful for helps me to concentrate on good things in my life. Give it a try!
“You simply need to unchain yourself from the past. Then you may find that you have all the power that you need once the past has been released. To let go of the past may be the most meaningful action you will ever take.” – Max Strom
The past does not define us. I cannot speak for people who have had very serious transgressions because I am not a professional and unable to give advice for these matters.
What I can say is that having a spiritual connection is imperative. When it all comes down to it, it does not matter what other people think or say about what you are doing with your life. It is your life. We were all put here for a purpose and it is not other people’s business to tell you what your purpose is. For a long time, I worried about the opinions of the people who were closest to me. One of the best things about getting older is the ability to not give a fuck! Who cares what other people think? Let them live their life and you live yours. When someone leaves your life or something does not work out as you’ve planned, better people and more doors will open filled with greater opportunities. If we continue to hold on to hurt and pain, we cannot move forward and live a peaceful life. So, whatever words, or pieces from the past that we hold on to, let it go. We all deserve peace.