When I decided to take a yoga teacher training course, the goal was to attain personal growth, not to teach. I was going through a difficult time and simply needed the change.
A few months after I began daily meditation, I noticed a significant difference in my life. So, I became inspired to share the benefits of meditation with others. After I received my certification, I started this website to share mindfulness tips.
Here are a few things that will help you become better at meditation or just get started.
Do Not Limit Yourself Meditation is for Everyone
Meditation does not have an age limit or any other qualifications. Anyone can practice meditation and benefit from it. It is important to not put limits on yourself by saying, “I can’t sit still” or “I can’t get my mind to stop racing.”
Remove the word cannot from your vocabulary. From now on, it is a bad word, and you aren’t allowed to say it. If you have trouble sitting still, set a timer for thirty seconds, light a candle, and focus on the candle flame while inhaling and exhaling fully. If you don’t have a candle, find an object in the room that you are in and focus only on that object and breathing.
Thirty seconds is not a long time, and it is a great place to start. If thoughts arise, simply say, “not now” and continue to breathe.
You shouldn’t feel like you must meditate for long periods. You also do not want to compare your progress to what someone else is doing. Although we are all 99% alike, we each have different paths.
Stay on Your Path
We are all perfect as we are and don’t have to be boxed into any standards, opinions, or judgments about who we should be or what we should be doing.
Whatever you are doing is good and at your own pace. We are surrounded by an overwhelming amount of information daily that we have to learn how to tune out. It is okay if your daily meditation plan does not go as you planned. Try it again later in the day.
Continue to practice meditating thirty seconds each day until you feel like you have mastered it. Once you feel like you have mastered thirty seconds, increase the time.
Be kind to yourself
Be Your Best Cheerleader
Do not beat yourself up if you can’t stop your mind from thinking about your to-do list or what someone said to you. It is none of your business what someone thinks for you and learning how to quiet your mind is a daily process.
We were not taught to quiet our minds as children. So, you are an adult learning a new skill. Just like any skill, meditation takes time and practice. Be patient and kind to yourself.
Here’s a personal story:
For about ten years, I tried to understand how to trade stocks. It was like a foreign language to me. One day, there was a lot of talk about AMC and GameStop. Suddenly, I got it!
I spent several weeks listening to the stock market channels and podcasts, and I finally understood cryptocurrencies and options trading too. As a result, I grew my stock account by 20% in a month. That doesn’t happen with a regular savings bank account. So, I began learning more about finances and managing money.
Meditating may seem like something foreign to you right now, but, one day, out of the blue, you’ll get it. Your mind will learn to calm down, and you will be present, focusing only on your breath.
The American System and Mindfulness
My biggest issue with the American system is that medical care is not affordable or free. I know that doctors, nurses, and the staff have to be paid. I also understand that machines for x-rays, MRIs, etc. are expensive and paid off over time, but hospitals continue to overcharge patients.
Yes, counselors and psychologists need to get paid for their time. But I do not agree with overcharging for these services making them unavailable to people who really need them.
A major change in the healthcare system is important to not take advantage of people’s illnesses.
Funds should go toward making the education system better. Children should learn how to be more mindful, financial literate, and acquire other skills to be healthy successful adults.
Since the society and the healthcare system are not designed to encourage mindfulness, your efforts to incorporate meditation and mindfulness into your life must be deliberate, self-paced, and full of positivity for you to enjoy the full benefits.
Here are the links to some of the mediations that I offer:
Other resources to learn how to meditate:
Youtube is also a great resource to find free meditation. You can also search for meditation instrumental music to listen to if you do not like guided meditation.
People post free events on eventbright.com. I have taken lots of yoga and meditation classes from this site and most of them are free.
Recommended books or authors:
- A Life Worth Breathing by Max Strom
- The Complete Yoga Book by James Hewitt
- The Sevenfold Journey Reclaiming Mind, Body, and Spirit Through the Chakras by Anodea Judith & Selene Vega
- The Art of Happiness by the Dali Lama
- Russel Brand’s books & YouTube channel is amazing.
- Thich Nhat Hanh
Remember that it is a daily process so be patient with yourself.
You’ve got this!